Is it Rude to Unfriend?

Is it really that rude to unfriend someone on facebook? I’ve been thinking about this lately after coming across an article on my newsfeed titled “5 Alternatives to Unfriending Someone on Facebook” which is featured on Mashable.

Basically it shows you how to organize your newsfeed by “hiding stories” from those friends whose posts you find annoying and how to change your visibility settings by creating “limited lists” so you can prevent people from seeing and commenting on your posts and photos. I thought it was very useful information especially if you have certain facebooks peeps whom you would like to have some privacy from without having to un-friend them which can be a little awkward.  

I’ve also had conversations about this with friends, co-workers and fellow work-out buddies who complain about the annoying people on facebook and how to deal with these so-called “friends” that they don’t even like which prompts me to ask, “Well, if you don’t like this person, then why don’t you just un-friend them?” And then they give me this weird look like I’m an alien and reply that it’s very rude to un-friend and it’s something that you should never do. I guess the proper etiquette now is to just hide them from your newsfeed and try to make yourself less visible to them. Woops…silly me!

I think it’s OK to un-friend certain people such as: ex-boyfriends, ex-girlfriends, ex co-workers and old classmates that you never speak to. Although, I dropped a friend of mine once because we had a falling out but looking back I don’t know if that was the right thing to do. It’s kind of petty and it’s just not nice. I guess I thought it was better to be out-of-sight, out-of-mind but that was before I knew about the privacy features. Oh well. Lesson learned.

It’s so funny how social media has become such an important part of our lives. Whenever something  important happens to us, we immediately have to include it in our facebook profiles or in our status updates and consider who we want to include or exclude. I just think that if it’s that personal and you don’t want to share it with everyone than don’t bother posting it at all.

Have you ever had to unfriend someone on facebook and felt bad about it? How do you deal with annoying people on facebook?


5 thoughts on “Is it Rude to Unfriend?

  1. Ashley =) says:

    Oh this was a great post luvs!! I hsve unfriend a few peeos in my time that I really did not feel it was necessary to keep them on my list. I’m with you, its not a definitive list of who are your true friends. Its a great networking tool as well ss a great way to keep in touch with friends and family. But if I ever see that you remove me I would actually be sad. It is wild how something so impersonal has such an effect on our emotions. I have recently discovered the options on facebook and I use them a lot with some of my pals that (like me) have to post everything lol and thst does tend to clutter my feed. Will I unfriend someone who is not that close to me anymore ? Chyea! Rude or not, if I do not feel my post should be shared with everyone on my list then I drop those who do not need to be on there. Im not going to sit here and try to limit this person and allow that person. Drop em and be done. =)

  2. IM says:

    I unfriend very few people and only do it when people directly annoy me by posting on my wall. If I don’t like something they post and it appears in my newsfeed, I’ll just hide their status updates. I had a lot of people unfriend me after I kept posting on my timeline about the terrible experience I had with food allergy mislabelling at my University residence, which I blogged about a year ago on.

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